i feel like the social pressure on transfem people both outside and inside the community to pass and be that hyperidealized girlypop perspective of femininity has resulted in me developing an eating disorder and severe dysmorphia
like yeah whatever but its really hard and its difficult for me to describe. I’m very confident in my femininity and I know I’m good looking but good fucking god I can feel the disconnect when I’m out at some queer event or hanging out with other trans women and am the one that gets misgendered because I “give off they/them vibes” for not trying to achieve this unrealistic anime-ass idealization of the female form. You shrug it off, but it plants this doubt and sense of alienation in your mind, and then you start skipping meals, and see a warped version of yourself in your reflection
This post kinda took off i guess and i seriously appreciate the concern but I seriously think a lot of you have no fucking clue what im talking about. My problem is not that I’m hanging out with people who just disrespect me. Its that there is a fucking stupid toxic mentality spreading throughout the community, online and offline, that exalts a specific body form while the rest of us can go fuck ourselves.
I’m not being misgendered by other trans women because they’re being purposeful bitches, I’m being misgendered because I don’t fit this unrealistic conformist view of what women, or specifically trans women, look like to them. My broad shoulders and muscular build result in people referring to me with neutral pronouns well after introduction to some people because I give off “vibes”. The eye patch I have to wear for medical purposes will make bitches misgender me because its “male-coded” and they will roll their eyes when I get upset over it like it’s my own fault. This happens EVERYWHERE because the only goddamn trans bodies we see anymore are the sleek, hairless, scarless, white, and skinny. We have, unfortunately, brought over the same dumbass misogynist beauty standards that we see affecting cisgender women. We inflict it on each other instead.
So what are we to do? You cant start “healing” when the culture is like this, it’s a very unique feeling of alienation when it seems even other trans women won’t take your identity and transition seriously. It seriously fucks with your self image and esteem and you begin doing dangerous unhealthy shit to fit in better.
And you know what the super fucked part of it is? It worked. I starved myself and lost 40 pounds and I don’t need to wear some fucking pin stating my pronouns at a function to be addressed as a woman by my own kind.
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Some of you straight up hate masculine women and gnc women and I wish you’d just say that with your full chest instead of pretending women are oppressed for being feminine when in reality feminine behavior is expected and women are policed by men and each other if they don’t present femininely enough. Femininity is looked down upon esp in men but that’s bc it’s associated and tied to women. Not bc women are oppressed for being feminine
Some transmascs need to realize that by making up new ways in which we are oppressed literally forgets and dismisses the real reason why we aren’t accepted in society and why people think badly of transmasculine people - which is literally misogyny (and transphobia, but the topic here is misogyny).
I’m sorry because a lot of transmascs don’t like that word applied to them, but it’s really exactly that people treat those they view as women/girls badly and even Worse if they are failing to do so by (cis, white) society’s standards.
So when you are passing and accepted you escape in some ways from misogyny, but you are still influenced by it. We CANNOT forget that women and ESPECIALLY trans women and women of color are hurt by the same societal influences that hurt us in the past/present. They are NOT the driving forces of this hurt (though women can be misogynistic and transphobic). The driving force is the society that primarily upholds men. Only conditionally do women benefit from this, and it can be taken from them at any moment.
If you want to Do something about it, actually try that trans togetherness you claim and stand by trans women/tma people during these tumultuous times AND peaceful times. And listen to them rather than positioning them as your enemy. Actually get into gender roles and why they’re like that instead of playing into the hands of the same roles you claim to eschew!
did you refer to your high school as just “*name* high” like they do in the movies like “east high” or “sky high” or did you always add “school” to the end of it
it’s so wild when people complain about religious inclusion like “oh so you think THEY should get special privileges/accommodations to do x, y, or z??”
and the things they’re talking about are like. exceptions to rules or norms that in themselves shouldn’t exist. yes Richard, we actually should have diverse meal options at work events to accommodate people with different diets. yes, people should be allowed to take time off to be with their family during whatever holidays or life events they so choose. yes, people should be able to wear clothing that makes them comfortable. nobody should be happy about these restrictions existing. stop bitching about the singular jewish or muslim person in your workplace and realize that everyone deserves better.
This is fascinating and I love the part with the mushrooms and the worms if this really works but my favorite part is that we spent decades like “oh no….oil is soaking into fur and feathers….if only we had something that could soak up all this oil”
A Palestinian man from the Shuafat refugee camp was beaten up by Israeli forces who then seared the Star of David on his cheek, Israeli media reports show.
The Palestinian man, who has not been named publicly, was arrested on Wednesday and was suspected by Israeli police of drug trafficking offences, Ynet reported.
Exactly 16 police officers were present at the arrest, and “none of their body cameras were working”, Ynet reported.
